Who Do You Tell? Navigating Disclosure

Deciding who knows about your work is one of the most personal decisions sex workers make, and one of the most stressful to keep making.

There's no "right" level of openness

Some people tell everyone, some tell no one, and most sit somewhere in between. What matters is that the choice is yours and that it's working for you.

Before you tell someone

• What do you hope will change once they know?
• How have they reacted to other things you've shared?
• What's the worst realistic outcome, and could you cope with it?
• Where and when would you feel safest having the conversation?

And if you decide not to tell someone, that's a valid decision too. Keeping something private is not the same as lying about who you are.